From NYT Motherlode Blog / Allison B. Carter:
Sometimes the language we use to talk about our choices as families can be really grating. “Lucky to have the luxury of staying home” is a common phrase, but Allison Carter, a stay-at-home-parent who planned and sacrificed for that “luck,” resents the implication, at least when it comes from other people who have the same luxury of choice, but made a different one. “A luxury is a nonessential item. An indulgence. What I do is essential, and certainly not self-indulgent.”
I do, indeed, hate it when the word “luxury” is used to define my role as a stay-at-home mom. But not for the reasons you might think. I am not here to argue who works harder: a working mother or a stay-at-home mother. I stand firm on my belief that it is hard for everyone. What goads me are the financial and lifestyle implications this statement carries.
A great read on an important perspective.