Sometimes people we care about are taken from us unexpectedly. I don’t think there’s anything worse than this feeling, and there’s  no remedy for the constant ache and overwhelming sadness that come with a loss.

We spend our lives striving to have more and more things, only to learn in an instant that the most most valuable parts of us aren’t things. They’re the irreplaceable people and relationships that make us who we are, and guide us through this thing called life.

As I’ve grown older, and been exposed to different twists of fate, I’ve learned you can’t seek explanations for senseless tragedies. You can’t find reasons for why terrible things happen to good people, and life isn’t always fair. It is a sobering moment in the transition from youth to adulthood to accept that none of us is invincible.

Today marks the tenth anniversary of the terrorist attacks on New York. None of us will ever forget where we were, how we found out and what we felt. I was in my freshman dorm at ASU and can still see that day in my head like it was yesterday. My heart goes out to everyone impacted by this horrible event and I pray they’ve found peace and happiness again.

Today was especially poignant for me as I learned that someone I knew for many years was killed in a terrible accident. I was shocked to hear that someone so full of life could be gone in an instant. Daniel was a remarkable person who lived life with an infectious energy. I hope he knows how many people he touched and inspired.

I feel that with death, we must grieve, but also be grateful. For memories, lessons and experiences. For so many good times that no one can take away. For a chance to know amazing people, even if it’s not for long enough.

Above all, I believe that life must be lived vibrantly, with adventure, and without an ounce of regret. We must find a balance between doing what we should do and what we are passionate about, and we must fill more time with our loved ones than doing anything else.

I feel so lucky to have a life full of love and incredible people, and so many things that make me happy. It makes coping with sadness possible, if not pleasant.

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