woof.

Today I am thankful for the fact that I can pay someone else $6 to cut my dog’s nails. You can’t get much for six bucks, but a pawdicure is well worth the investment.

He’s cute, but canine manicures are not listed in my top 10 favorite activities for a Thursday evening. So we swung by Smelly Dog and now Bruno’s all tuckered out from the excitement. He got to ride in the car, smell new things and pee in some new places — so pretty much the perfect day.

Note that he’s recently begun crossing his paws when he lies down. I’m not sure if it’s for modesty or simply to be polite, but either way it’s adorable.

Please help my friend!

My dear friend Ceiba (Who did my hair and make up at my wedding) owns and operates her own salon in Phoenix. She is an amazing person and incredibly talented professional. She’s currently under a tight deadline to relocate her salon unexpectedly – the building in which she’s currently located is being demolished and the move presents a huge financial hardship.

We’re rallying to get her 250 votes through a contest on missionsmallbusiness.com – to put her in the running for a $250K grant for small business owners.

Please, please take 30 seconds to vote. Here’s how:

  • Go to: https://www.missionsmallbusiness.com/
  • Click the link under: Log in with facebook to support your community on the bottom right of the page
  • Enter your facebook log-in info (you won’t get any spam)
  • Once redirected, under the search field, enter: Beauty Guru Ceiba and hit search
  • Click Vote

Done! Good karma guaranteed.

Thank you :-)

Good Instincts

I’m a little obsessed with the fact that animals know exactly what to do and not do in life based on instinct. Like the fact that my dogs attempt to dig a hole in the ground carpet every night before bed, and bury their bones in the yard for safe keeping from predators the lawnmower.

I’m sure our human ancestors knew how to survive instinctively as well, but over the years, things like language, electricity and the practice of wearing of clothing seem to have swayed our natural reactions into less-natural learned behaviors. Damn you, modern society.

I like to think I still have some instincts, though. Things like automatically ducking when I hear a loud noise, or naturally gravitating to the super market when chocolate is on sale. These innate responses make navigating through life a little bit easier. They’re still there, just a little dormant.

This is why I think it’s an incredible compliment to be told you have good instincts. I was told this today and it made me feel really happy. Work’s been stressful lately, good stress — the kind that pushes you out of your comfort zone and into intense learning – but it’s been hard. So when I heard these words, it was as if I was told, “Yes, you are intelligent. Not a bumbling fool – nope, not incompetent!”

It’s not that I was forlorn, or moping about with my tail between my legs, but I’d forgotten how nice it was to get a little confidence CPR. I’d survive just fine without it, but because of it, I’m energized.

Professionally, it sometimes can be really hard to follow your instincts. There are so many factors that impact our thoughts and actions, not the least of which is the fact we’re working for other people and companies, not ourselves. We don’t always get to act in a way that represents our true self, and occasionally we’ve forced to make decisions we don’t particularly agree with. It’s a delicate balance — being true to yourself without totally pissing off anyone who can fire you.

So what’s the answer…how much should we stick to our instincts, and when do we need to drink the damn Kool-Aid?

Uh…if I had that answer, I don’t think I’d be blogging on my couch at 10 p.m. I’d probably be making millions as a business consultant. But I don’t think there is a clear-cut answer. I believe it’s one of those frustrating conundrums life throws at us over and over again, as a way of keeping us sharp.

If decisions were easy, we’d all be complacent. And complacent is boring. So cheers to fine tuning your instincts.

 

The Non-Olympics

The Olympics are coming, the Olympics are coming!

Who doesn’t LOVE them?

I was never quite athletic enough to dream of an Olympic appearance. But I’ve often wished there was a competition to celebrate the fine-tuned skills of people who excel in non-athletic activities. Then I would have a case full of medals.

Here are the events I feel I could dominate:

1. Spelling.
2. Rapid laundry sorting. (By color or fabric – I’d medal in either event.)
3. Google stalking people.
4. Dog bathing.
5. Tripping in high heels. (Didn’t play enough dress-up as a child.)
6. Obsessing about things I can’t control.
7. Selecting the perfect greeting card no matter the occasion.
8. Hair straightening.
9. Seinfeld trivia.
10. Frosting eating.

we tried…

Ally’s wedding was so amazing it deserves it’s own entire post, but until I have time for that, feast your eyes on our botched attempt to mimic the Bridesmaids poster.

Given the painful shoes, excessive humidity and overzealous photographer, I think we did alright…

Is that what it looks like?

There’s a scene in one of the last few episodes of season four of Mad Men where Dr. Faye Miller, cutting ties with the agency, says goodbye to associate Peggy Olsen. Peggy’s upset that she’ll no longer see Faye, who’s become a bit of a role model to her. She offers a flattering confession of how impressed she is with the doctor’s work and marvels at how well Faye can do her job, handle tough feedback from the men in the office and — basically — keep it all together.

Faye’s reaction is simply a demure smile and the statement, ‘Is that what it looks like?”

This wasn’t a particularly important scene, but it’s always stuck with me as so astutely indicative of how females view each other. We’re so apt to compare our own lives to those around us, often finding fault in what we do, how we look or what we accomplish.

Is that what it looks like is the perfect way to sum this up. Because we so often see what we want to see when we look at others’ lives. We see what we want to believe can exist — whether it’s a perfect home, a flawless relationship or impressive career. We fool ourselves into thinking that others have it all, when in reality, everyone’s dealt her own struggles.

Mad Men is a fictional drama, but it’s interesting to see that even decades ago the pressure on women to have it all was as prevalent as it remains today.

On the bright side, we’re no longer required to wear pantyhose or submit to sexual harassment in the workplace :-)

 

Why I’m That Girl.

1. I’ve never seen Pretty Woman, Dirty Dancing or Footloose. I know. I KNOW.

2. I think ketchup should be its own food group.

3. I do not understand the rules of football, not a lick.

4. Watching 30 Rock makes me wish I worked in television. Outside of these times I never, ever wish I worked in television.

5. I only like sandwiches and scrambled eggs if Jim makes them.

6. Muffin or bagel? Bagel. Taco or burrito? Burrito. Hard cover or soft cover? Kindle.

7. Local television news gives mes severe anxiety, regardless of the city.

8. My best friend Amy and I essentially invented twitter in the ninth grade. It’s a long story, but our geometry teacher will vouch for us.

9. I can only type correctly with my left hand. My right hand hunts and pecks. Chew on that.

10. I do not share dessert.